The most troublesome question that I always have is the above. I always have a doubt that can anybody in the current world be like "Pativratha" Seetha or can anybody really be like "Eka patni vrathastha" Ram? Most of the men who have only 1 wife or the women who are dedicated to 1 one man would blindly say "Yes, there are many". But, I seriously doubt that whether they are really Ram/Seetha from their soul? Because, the term "Pativratha" does not only mean that a woman should be dedicated to 1 man. But, it means that you should not even think of any other person other than a person whom you are committed to. Similarly, the phrase "Eka patni vrathastha" does not only mean about a person who has only 1 wife. But, says about the committment of a man to one lady wrt body , soul and mind. I feel its really impractical to be like Ram or Seetha. Though, I do agree that we are proud be Indians who still try to follow the culture of Ram and Seetha.
Most of my friends disagreed and said some statements like, "Why do you think that way, me and my husband are fine", "Hey, come on, you know me, I love my wife so much, I just cant think of any other lady" when I asked the same question. But, I am sure that they would have asked the same question to themselves and they would have agreed with my argument that its difficult to be committed at the soul level. This is because of a fact that we always think logically and we tend to compare.
The defined art of current generation is to think logically. We accept things easily when proved they are logical before even thinking whether they are ethical or not. Take a scenario where both husband and wife are not at all happy with each other even after years. When people get into details and find no way out, they simply say " Its time to think logically/practically than thinking emotionally and take a divorce". The funniest part of the logical thinking is comparison, of course, even in maths, logic is comparison ( < ,>,<=,>=). That is what we do in our daily life.
Our life will be cool, happy and in an equilibrium till we tend to compare. When we compare and find a better thing, then the fight starts. Our mind will say "Its quite logical to go for a better thing" when we have better choices. I don't know whether the readers agree with me or not. But, I can fearlessly say that a man/woman gets fluctuated atleast once in his/her life time. Its also because a person likes or has multiple personalities. We tend to like a person who has similar personality of our's. Only thing is that, all these hidden desires do not come out just beacause of the fear of society. Though we all are "pathivartha"s and "Eka patni vrathastha"s outside, inside we know our story. Sometimes, we enjoy those feelings going to a entirely different world forgetting the reality. But, soon we come back. I cannot deny that it is still better that we commit ourselves to one person in life overcoming all the fluctuations that happen in our inner mind. I can say commitment comes by choice. When we compare a person wrt all possible things that we like /dislike, somewhere we feel, "One person cannot be perfect and the person I have got is the best suit for me". That is what I call, LOVE. If we don't get this feeling, there comes the break in relationship. I have heard many couples telling that they are best friends. May be those are the couples who understand these fluctuations in each other and forgive each other, still live together happily. I always appreciate those who really have the maturity to think on these feelings, discuss and forget than fighting in terms of possesiveness. Because, we just cant avoid some feelings that come and go. But, can assure that all these are temporary. Possessiveness is really beautiful when taken on a positive note.
I always wonder what can satisfy a person? Its always been a confusion for me that why we get deviated so easily even after being happy, having no worries and being matured enough. Please don't ask me the answer. I don't have any. But, I can say that those who are happily living( from heart) with each other overcoming the ups/downs and deviations from normal track, they are still Rams and Seethas. Because, it is not so simple to overcome a strong feeling and still live happily from heart. That is called the real commitment. If you ask me the same question in the title now, I would say, "Yes, there are many". But, the definitions of Ram and Seetha are little changed.
Smiles,
Meera
Most of my friends disagreed and said some statements like, "Why do you think that way, me and my husband are fine", "Hey, come on, you know me, I love my wife so much, I just cant think of any other lady" when I asked the same question. But, I am sure that they would have asked the same question to themselves and they would have agreed with my argument that its difficult to be committed at the soul level. This is because of a fact that we always think logically and we tend to compare.
The defined art of current generation is to think logically. We accept things easily when proved they are logical before even thinking whether they are ethical or not. Take a scenario where both husband and wife are not at all happy with each other even after years. When people get into details and find no way out, they simply say " Its time to think logically/practically than thinking emotionally and take a divorce". The funniest part of the logical thinking is comparison, of course, even in maths, logic is comparison ( < ,>,<=,>=). That is what we do in our daily life.
Our life will be cool, happy and in an equilibrium till we tend to compare. When we compare and find a better thing, then the fight starts. Our mind will say "Its quite logical to go for a better thing" when we have better choices. I don't know whether the readers agree with me or not. But, I can fearlessly say that a man/woman gets fluctuated atleast once in his/her life time. Its also because a person likes or has multiple personalities. We tend to like a person who has similar personality of our's. Only thing is that, all these hidden desires do not come out just beacause of the fear of society. Though we all are "pathivartha"s and "Eka patni vrathastha"s outside, inside we know our story. Sometimes, we enjoy those feelings going to a entirely different world forgetting the reality. But, soon we come back. I cannot deny that it is still better that we commit ourselves to one person in life overcoming all the fluctuations that happen in our inner mind. I can say commitment comes by choice. When we compare a person wrt all possible things that we like /dislike, somewhere we feel, "One person cannot be perfect and the person I have got is the best suit for me". That is what I call, LOVE. If we don't get this feeling, there comes the break in relationship. I have heard many couples telling that they are best friends. May be those are the couples who understand these fluctuations in each other and forgive each other, still live together happily. I always appreciate those who really have the maturity to think on these feelings, discuss and forget than fighting in terms of possesiveness. Because, we just cant avoid some feelings that come and go. But, can assure that all these are temporary. Possessiveness is really beautiful when taken on a positive note.
I always wonder what can satisfy a person? Its always been a confusion for me that why we get deviated so easily even after being happy, having no worries and being matured enough. Please don't ask me the answer. I don't have any. But, I can say that those who are happily living( from heart) with each other overcoming the ups/downs and deviations from normal track, they are still Rams and Seethas. Because, it is not so simple to overcome a strong feeling and still live happily from heart. That is called the real commitment. If you ask me the same question in the title now, I would say, "Yes, there are many". But, the definitions of Ram and Seetha are little changed.
Smiles,
Meera
