What does a woman want?

   This is the question which arises to almost all men in the world. Universally, men feel that it is really difficult to guess the reaction of a woman in different circumstances. Though they are little different from men's thinking, it is not difficult for men to understand what woman wants, if they can understand the basic psychology or if they have basic analyzing capabilities. Precisely, the points brought out below would let men think and get reasons behind her behavior. Of course, there are exceptions where these might not hold good. But, those are rare.

  Woman has a basic character of getting attached to her family, people and things around her. Knowingly or unknowingly, she will develop possessiveness on each and everything around her. She always tries to make things around her better and better, hence she cannot accept things/criticism which let her surrounding down and her enthusiasm in making them better as well.

Tiny Things: She can get upset even for a small piece of talk which is negative about her things. In parallel to this thinking, she expects people whom she love, to support in her activities. For ex: She is interested in keeping her home clean and attractive. She does expect her husband/brother/father to support in these activities. She likes when her husband takes interest in choosing the color of the curtains. She loves when her father gets her things to decorate the house. Similarly, there will be n number of tiny things which she is interested in. She feels happy when men give importance on those. She sometimes feels secured when she is given importance.

Observation/ Remembrance: Women's natural character is to seek attention. She observes a lot and tries to change accordingly. She takes a lot of effort to keep her loved ones happy by changing herself. But, if the change in her is left un-noticed or is not acknowledged, she can easily get upset because she feels that her efforts are not cared. She tries to look beautiful to make her spouse happy and tries lot of things. At the same time she expects her spouse to support / notice those efforts. For ex: She feels happy when her husband observes her dry feet and asks her to take care. She feels happy when he observes the change in nail color or a lipstick. She feels that her spouse cares about her and thus observes her. Lack of observation and acknowledgement might upset her any time leading to her mood swing without any trigger. She expects her close ones to remember special occasions like her birthday, anniversary, first date, friendship day etc and acknowledge/ greet her for her existence. She will be hurt when she knows even the close ones doesn’t remember those. She feels that she is not important and no one cares for her. She feels lonely.

Expression of Love/ Care: Men always fail in expressing their care and love they have towards their wives. They feel it’s unimportant and expect women to understand that they love her. But, ultimately women is again not a fairy or a goddess to understand unspoken/ unexpressed things, though she tries to. It becomes important to show her the love, care for by means of actions. It may me a simple thing like giving a rose, may be a kiss of care, may be a hug, and may be getting her favorite snack. It might be a support/ care given to her when she fails or when she is down. She loves small surprises. It need not be always costly to express love. Of course, costly jewels and clothes brings twinkle in her eyes, but that doesn’t always keep her happy. Tiny things keep her happy as said earlier.

Habits/Attitude/Romance/Conversation: Most of the women quarrel with men for their bad habits. But, there is one other side of women. It is not always true that women cannot accept bad habits. It’s only that she cannot accept when it goes to extremes. She does enjoy manly habits in her spouse when she is confident that it is limited and doesn’t trouble his life. In fact, sometimes she likes the style of men when they smoke. She expects her man to be rough and tough too. She doesn’t like when he is very mild, agrees to whatever she says. She likes him to be aggressive and manly. It appears to be contradictory. But, over a period of time, men can analyze when they can be rough and when they can be mild. She likes her man to be possessive on her. But, not over possessive that it restricts her to be free. She loves freedom at the same time she loves to be under control also. Most women get attracted to a man because of his manliness. Manliness wrt body or may be wrt attitude. Woman feels happy when her beauty is observed and appraised. She expects her man to be romantic, to like her beauty. This is the reason for which she asks about her dressing n number of times. She expects her man to give comments on her dressing. She likes if her spouse gives suggestions on improving on her figure and be beautiful. She thinks that she can keep her man happy by her beauty. Sex does keep her happy as it proves that the man is interested in her. She always feel secured when her man is interested in her.

             Apart from all these, casual conversation with her on any topic will make her feel that she is valued. She likes when people listen to her when she is expressive. It might be really boring for the person who is listening. But, understanding her enthusiasm and interest in being detailed  and listening to her makes her feel she is important, thus making her feel good. Conversations on her interests and disinterests will give her pleasure.

            On a whole, she is happy when she is valued and cared. Though this is a small try to tell what a woman expects/wants, there are many untold things which women want. This is just a try to dissolve them all into major categories. There will be specific example for specific persons. Hope this was helpful for men and supporting for women who are trying to make their relationships better. It would have been a write up on "What men want?" but that isn’t tough as most women know and that is never been a haunting question. Wish you a happy life. Take care.

Smiles,

Meera